FAQs
Is this Black Tie? What to wear? What to wear!!
This is not black tie and is outdoors. The theme is natural and neutral, so if you’ve got a light cotton or linen suit or dress or something in this neutral color range- now is the time to get it out. Think upscale summertime cocktail party- classy but comfortable. It’s almost guaranteed to be a sunny 72-82 degrees, and cool off after sunset, so you may want to bring a jacket or sweater if you get cold, and dress in layers in case it does get too warm. Ladies- please be aware that there will be grass, gravel, dancing, and paved surfaces involved, so bring 2 pairs of shoes if you must to ensure a good time.
What time is the event and can I just drop-in anytime?
Our champagne reception starts at 5pm, followed by a seated dinner, so a drive-by visit is not really possible. Some guests may choose to leave early after the dinner, while others will want stay after for cocktails and dancing until 10:30pm.
I’ve never been to Filoli, will I have time to see the house and gardens?
Filoli is a historic house with acres and acres of formal gardens and wooded areas- not to be missed! If you have never been, we have arranged for our guest list to gain free entry. We’d recommend arriving an hour or so early if you want to see the house/gardens. At 5pm, the property closes to the public and our event begins, The house and gates to the outer parts of the gardens will be locked, but you can enjoy the inner gardens we’ve set up for the event.
Tell me about the shuttle. Can’t I just Uber? What about parking?
As Filoli is a semi-remote location outside of Palo Alto, there is plenty of free parking. We are also arranging a shuttle to and from a meeting place in SF, so guests can get there and home safely. It may be impossible to get an Uber or taxi at this location to take you home, so plan to take the shuttle, or find a responsible driver.
I’m from out of the area, where should I stay?
If you are here for a few days to enjoy the area, we’d recommend visiting our beautiful (and recently cleaner!) City of San Francisco- there’s nothing like it. Click here for a map and Click here for our locals guide and tips for what to enjoy and avoid so you have a better experience.
If you would like to stay out of the city and close to the venue, we’d recommend finding a hotel in San Mateo, Palo Alto or Menlo Park. Palo Alto in particular has a beautiful, walkable downtown with lots of shops and restaurants, and shopping at nearby Stanford Shopping Center if you must.
Can I bring my spouse/significant other or a date / guest?
Yes, please provide their information with your RSVP. We have limited seating so each set of invitations is made for two people max. If you are flying solo- don’t be shy, you’ll have a great time anyway with plenty of people to mingle with.
Can I bring my kids or fur babies?
This celebration is everyone’s night off so you can be free to be yourselves for an evening. Adults only. If you need a local babysitter, perhaps we can place some calls for a reference to check out. Wag Hotel is popular for pets.
Sounds like a good party- I’m bringing my entourage.
Just… don’t.
Due to the intimate nature of this celebration and limited seating, it’s for invited guests only and we cannot accommodate others. You can meet your posse later at night for an afterparty back in town.
Is there a gift registry?
For many guests, the time, expense and arrangements to make this evening possible is already gift enough. The gift of your company is all we ask. If you really feel inclined to do something financially, we like the following organizations that make a difference:
NEWH SF Chapter Scholarship Fund (For designers and hospitality students)
The Trevor Project (LGBT+ Suicide Prevention)
TheOut.Foundation (Scholarships and resources for LGBT+ Students at BYU that need help and options)
I like to smoke or vape;
is there a place I can light up?
Smoking or vaping anywhere on the property (even the parking lot) is not allowed and carries a $500 fine per smoke for all parties involved or not. It’s a good idea to bring some Nicorette if you must, pretty please.
I can’t. I’m vegan, and gluten free, and allergic to things - help!
Our caterer has got you covered. Please enter your dietary restrictions in the RSVP and they will conjure up something for your needs.